Monday, March 7, 2011


Buku nie diberi oleh my hubby tahun lepas..tulisan Dr. HM Tuah Iskandar Al-Haj. Banyak tajuk jugak dalam buku nie..dengan menggunakan bahasa2 yang mudah difahami dan agak santai. Semuanya tentang kehidupan seharian..jika difikirakan walaupun berlainan situasi tetapi intipatinya tetap @ mungkin sama..cuma cara penyelesaiannya bergantung kepada kita..banyak jugak yang boleh di jadikan motivasi pada diri..

Saturday, March 5, 2011

Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus




Popular marriage counselor and seminar leader John Gray provides a unique, practical and proven way for men and women to communicate and relate better by acknowledging the differences between them.

Once upon a time Martians and Venusians met, fell in love, and had happy relationships together because they respected and accepted their differences. Then they came to earth and amnesia set in: they forgot they were from different planets.

Using this metaphor to illustrate the commonly occurring conflicts between men and women, Gray explains how these differences can come between the sexes and prohibit mutually fulfilling loving relationships. Based on years of successful counseling of couples, he gives advice on how to counteract these differences in communication styles, emotional needs and modes of behavior to promote a greater understanding between individual partners. Gray shows how men and women react differently in conversation and how their relationships are affected by male intimacy cycles ("get close", "back off"), and female self-esteem fluctuations ("I'm okay", "I'm not okay"). He encourages readers to accept the other gender's particular way of expressing love, and helps men and women learn how to fulfill each other's emotional needs.

With practical suggestions on how to reduce conflict, crucial information on how to interpret a partner's behavior and methods for preventing emotional "trash from the past" from invading new relationships, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus is a valuable tool for couples who want to develop deeper and more satisfying relationships with their partners.

The Magic of Thinking Big



Professor Schwartz wrote his modern classic in 1959, and the title is familiar to millions of readers ever since who have used his ideas to sell, build careers, launch businesses, and generally get ahead. This review will take a retrospective look at the ideas themselves.

The basic ideas of The Magic of Thinking BIG are practical adaptations of philosophical Idealism: thought governs action and result. But Schwartz adds another major premise: the size of thoughts will modify the size of success. And he believes, like most Americans, that happiness is the real goal of life. What is distinctive about David J. Schwartz' approach is that he shakes these basic notions out into a set of precepts, rules of conduct, approaches to thinking and action in which thoughts become motivators. In other words, use the rules and prescriptions, and they work.

Other reviewers have said, it's the kind of book to read again and again. So the magic of thinking big may be only part magic--the rest is the harder work of keeping at it.

Still, there is magic here. And the CD preserves it nicely. The magic is that thoughts are things and the Self can change these things any time the Self chooses to change. It's incredibly simple although, in practice as everybody already knows, damned hard to do. The Magic in what Schwartz provides may simply be the everyday, down-to-earth ways he brings some lofty concepts into ordinary experience. If magic is slight of hand, you need to learn the trick in order to practice it; Schwartz breaks it all down to a point anybody who desires it can get it.

And there, in the word desire, is the secret wrapped inside the magic. You have to want to--enough, often enough, clearly enough. Schwartz provides the things to repeat, the clarity. You just bring the desire. Together these two things become the ingredients of true motivation, a being not just thinking anymore but thinking and acting, doing, becoming, changing, or to use one of the Schwartz' verbs, "conquering."

The main idea is that "The size of your thinking determines the size of your success." In other words, those who make five times your salary aren't five times smarter, better, luckier--they are thinking five times bigger. A not-so-hidden presupposition of all this is the arguable premise, bigger is better. Schwartz goes, it must be said, to great lengths to provide a satisfying understanding of what he means by "thinking bigger."

And most self-help buyers think both thinking bigger is better and bigger (itself) is better. After all, life occurs in a market economy. And remember the title: it's not the magic of thinking more clearly or thinking through things or thinking with a computer running. It's thinking BIG. We will get back to that.

Permit this reviewer an aside. I have an odd bias. I think it would be better if David Schwartz first leaned to pronounce the "ee" sound in "belief" before recording. He says "blief" so much that it becomes distracting. This reviewer means no disrespect to the departed master motivator, just that perhaps Simon and Schuster could use some digital magic of their own to edit these vintage tapes used in the CD. To their credit, however, they have added several other voices, reading much of the material, giving Schwartz long rests throughout the four disks--which greatly improves the listening quality generally.

So, getting back to thinking BIG, success is linked here to bigness. It's that link that most indelibly secures this work to its origins in the 1950s. No escaping that. But is it wrong? Is it even dated when you consider the even more compelling interest in bigness in today's Microsoft- ($359 Billion) and Google- ($60 Billion?) economy? It's humbling to see the answer: If bigness isn't better, it is certainly dominant in the life of our economies worldwide. Think small and the world will pass you by.

Schwartz uses other locutions that, regrettably, border on what's terminal in discourse: "excusitis" is the most salient. That's a "disease," he says, of the intellect to be avoided. It's small thinking run rampant, making excuses for all the little failings that lead to a life of failure. People make excuses to cover their self-defeating choices. Instead of your goal achieved, what you have is your excuse for why you didn't reach your goal. It's a disease: excusitis.

The cure is all the things Schwartz outlines and describes: creative thinking, eliminating negative words like "impossible," avoiding the "negators," those downer people who steal our dreams; developing skills in listening, building confidence by overcoming fear, building self-belief, solving problems by taking action, using special techniques like "mind force," smiling to win support, getting people to support your goals, and generally using thought to influence people and events toward success.

The rules Schwartz describes are more than useful. They are factual, tested, undeniable. And that's why The Magic of Thinking BIG is a classic in its field. Thinking includes time out to think alone, planning, thinking balanced with action, thinking positively, thinking choices, "directed and undirected thinking," setting goals, thinking through 30-day plans, thinking through investments in education and "idea starters" like good books, thinking about attitudes, thinking about complimenting people. On the whole it's a powerful program for individuals.

But it must be said there is no false modesty in it. Nor is it for those who need or want to look more deeply into the questions of what comprises happiness, or even success. It assumes that happiness is linked to material success, which itself can be better when it's bigger. It's not for everyone.



Salam, selamat petang..
Masih tak terlewat untuk aku wish, selamat melangkah masuk ke bulan mac..debaran tue mmg la terasa..mcm2 aku pikirkan sebenarnya, tapi insyaallah..pasti ada penyelesaiannya.

Ohya, semalam, mr.hubby share sesuatu dgn aku, based on buku yang dia beli petang semalam..bagus jugak buku tue..man are from mars and women are from venus..satu lagi the magic of thinking big..buku yang first tue based on kehidupan..pengalaman dan sebagainya.

Lama jugak la kami bercerita...baru semalam dia mengaku 2,3 perkara..tapi aku dah leh agak dah..cuma nak dengar sendiri dari mulut dia..;p..bukan aku ada niat apa2 pun cuma aku bukan jenis nak bertanya..biar lah tuan empunya diri yang bercerita..huhu..

Monday, March 7, 2011

Posted by Chek Nurul at 1:38 PM 0 comments
Buku nie diberi oleh my hubby tahun lepas..tulisan Dr. HM Tuah Iskandar Al-Haj. Banyak tajuk jugak dalam buku nie..dengan menggunakan bahasa2 yang mudah difahami dan agak santai. Semuanya tentang kehidupan seharian..jika difikirakan walaupun berlainan situasi tetapi intipatinya tetap @ mungkin sama..cuma cara penyelesaiannya bergantung kepada kita..banyak jugak yang boleh di jadikan motivasi pada diri..

Saturday, March 5, 2011

Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus

Posted by Chek Nurul at 8:16 PM 0 comments


Popular marriage counselor and seminar leader John Gray provides a unique, practical and proven way for men and women to communicate and relate better by acknowledging the differences between them.

Once upon a time Martians and Venusians met, fell in love, and had happy relationships together because they respected and accepted their differences. Then they came to earth and amnesia set in: they forgot they were from different planets.

Using this metaphor to illustrate the commonly occurring conflicts between men and women, Gray explains how these differences can come between the sexes and prohibit mutually fulfilling loving relationships. Based on years of successful counseling of couples, he gives advice on how to counteract these differences in communication styles, emotional needs and modes of behavior to promote a greater understanding between individual partners. Gray shows how men and women react differently in conversation and how their relationships are affected by male intimacy cycles ("get close", "back off"), and female self-esteem fluctuations ("I'm okay", "I'm not okay"). He encourages readers to accept the other gender's particular way of expressing love, and helps men and women learn how to fulfill each other's emotional needs.

With practical suggestions on how to reduce conflict, crucial information on how to interpret a partner's behavior and methods for preventing emotional "trash from the past" from invading new relationships, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus is a valuable tool for couples who want to develop deeper and more satisfying relationships with their partners.

The Magic of Thinking Big

Posted by Chek Nurul at 8:11 PM 0 comments

Professor Schwartz wrote his modern classic in 1959, and the title is familiar to millions of readers ever since who have used his ideas to sell, build careers, launch businesses, and generally get ahead. This review will take a retrospective look at the ideas themselves.

The basic ideas of The Magic of Thinking BIG are practical adaptations of philosophical Idealism: thought governs action and result. But Schwartz adds another major premise: the size of thoughts will modify the size of success. And he believes, like most Americans, that happiness is the real goal of life. What is distinctive about David J. Schwartz' approach is that he shakes these basic notions out into a set of precepts, rules of conduct, approaches to thinking and action in which thoughts become motivators. In other words, use the rules and prescriptions, and they work.

Other reviewers have said, it's the kind of book to read again and again. So the magic of thinking big may be only part magic--the rest is the harder work of keeping at it.

Still, there is magic here. And the CD preserves it nicely. The magic is that thoughts are things and the Self can change these things any time the Self chooses to change. It's incredibly simple although, in practice as everybody already knows, damned hard to do. The Magic in what Schwartz provides may simply be the everyday, down-to-earth ways he brings some lofty concepts into ordinary experience. If magic is slight of hand, you need to learn the trick in order to practice it; Schwartz breaks it all down to a point anybody who desires it can get it.

And there, in the word desire, is the secret wrapped inside the magic. You have to want to--enough, often enough, clearly enough. Schwartz provides the things to repeat, the clarity. You just bring the desire. Together these two things become the ingredients of true motivation, a being not just thinking anymore but thinking and acting, doing, becoming, changing, or to use one of the Schwartz' verbs, "conquering."

The main idea is that "The size of your thinking determines the size of your success." In other words, those who make five times your salary aren't five times smarter, better, luckier--they are thinking five times bigger. A not-so-hidden presupposition of all this is the arguable premise, bigger is better. Schwartz goes, it must be said, to great lengths to provide a satisfying understanding of what he means by "thinking bigger."

And most self-help buyers think both thinking bigger is better and bigger (itself) is better. After all, life occurs in a market economy. And remember the title: it's not the magic of thinking more clearly or thinking through things or thinking with a computer running. It's thinking BIG. We will get back to that.

Permit this reviewer an aside. I have an odd bias. I think it would be better if David Schwartz first leaned to pronounce the "ee" sound in "belief" before recording. He says "blief" so much that it becomes distracting. This reviewer means no disrespect to the departed master motivator, just that perhaps Simon and Schuster could use some digital magic of their own to edit these vintage tapes used in the CD. To their credit, however, they have added several other voices, reading much of the material, giving Schwartz long rests throughout the four disks--which greatly improves the listening quality generally.

So, getting back to thinking BIG, success is linked here to bigness. It's that link that most indelibly secures this work to its origins in the 1950s. No escaping that. But is it wrong? Is it even dated when you consider the even more compelling interest in bigness in today's Microsoft- ($359 Billion) and Google- ($60 Billion?) economy? It's humbling to see the answer: If bigness isn't better, it is certainly dominant in the life of our economies worldwide. Think small and the world will pass you by.

Schwartz uses other locutions that, regrettably, border on what's terminal in discourse: "excusitis" is the most salient. That's a "disease," he says, of the intellect to be avoided. It's small thinking run rampant, making excuses for all the little failings that lead to a life of failure. People make excuses to cover their self-defeating choices. Instead of your goal achieved, what you have is your excuse for why you didn't reach your goal. It's a disease: excusitis.

The cure is all the things Schwartz outlines and describes: creative thinking, eliminating negative words like "impossible," avoiding the "negators," those downer people who steal our dreams; developing skills in listening, building confidence by overcoming fear, building self-belief, solving problems by taking action, using special techniques like "mind force," smiling to win support, getting people to support your goals, and generally using thought to influence people and events toward success.

The rules Schwartz describes are more than useful. They are factual, tested, undeniable. And that's why The Magic of Thinking BIG is a classic in its field. Thinking includes time out to think alone, planning, thinking balanced with action, thinking positively, thinking choices, "directed and undirected thinking," setting goals, thinking through 30-day plans, thinking through investments in education and "idea starters" like good books, thinking about attitudes, thinking about complimenting people. On the whole it's a powerful program for individuals.

But it must be said there is no false modesty in it. Nor is it for those who need or want to look more deeply into the questions of what comprises happiness, or even success. It assumes that happiness is linked to material success, which itself can be better when it's bigger. It's not for everyone.

Posted by Chek Nurul at 7:24 PM 0 comments

Salam, selamat petang..
Masih tak terlewat untuk aku wish, selamat melangkah masuk ke bulan mac..debaran tue mmg la terasa..mcm2 aku pikirkan sebenarnya, tapi insyaallah..pasti ada penyelesaiannya.

Ohya, semalam, mr.hubby share sesuatu dgn aku, based on buku yang dia beli petang semalam..bagus jugak buku tue..man are from mars and women are from venus..satu lagi the magic of thinking big..buku yang first tue based on kehidupan..pengalaman dan sebagainya.

Lama jugak la kami bercerita...baru semalam dia mengaku 2,3 perkara..tapi aku dah leh agak dah..cuma nak dengar sendiri dari mulut dia..;p..bukan aku ada niat apa2 pun cuma aku bukan jenis nak bertanya..biar lah tuan empunya diri yang bercerita..huhu..
 

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